Short videos for when someone you love is trying to get out — and you want to help, not push.
How this collection works
Who watches this
You — the person showing up. These videos aren't for the recipient.
When
Before a conversation, when you're not sure what to say. Watch alone, take a beat.
What each beat is for
Caption orients you before watching. Takeaway is the line to hold onto. Reflection questions turn watching into a small decision.
The collection · 4 videos
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Healing from Toxic Relationships and Abuse: You Don’t Have to Go to War to Get PTSD
Todd Perelmuter · 7 min
A meditation teacher on why emotional abuse can leave real trauma — and why needing support isn’t weakness.
Takeaway
You don’t need a battlefield to come home with real trauma. The first gift you can give someone leaving abuse is to believe the harm was real — out loud.
Reflection
01
Write the one sentence you’ll say that names the harm as real: "What happened to you was abuse, and it makes sense that you’re struggling." Say it in person or on a call when they can talk freely, not in a text someone else might read.
02
Drop one phrase you’ve been tempted to use ("but they had good moments," "it wasn’t that bad") — write it down so you’ll catch yourself before it slips out.
03
Put a 6-week reminder in your calendar to check in again — trauma surfaces in waves, and the second check-in often matters more than the first.