Video Collection · For Supporters · 3 Videos
How to Show Up Long After a Loss
Short videos for the long part of grief — the part nobody else is talking about anymore.
How this collection works
- Who watches this
- You — the person showing up. These videos aren't for the recipient.
- When
- Before a conversation, when you're not sure what to say. Watch alone, take a beat.
- What each beat is for
- Caption orients you before watching. Takeaway is the line to hold onto. Reflection questions turn watching into a small decision.
The collection · 3 videos
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How to help a grieving friend: the animation
Megan Devine · 4 min
A grief counselor's four-minute animation on why acknowledgment helps where cheering-up backfires.
Takeaway
You can't heal someone's pain by taking it away. Acknowledge the hole. I'm so sorry. Do you want to tell me about it? is the move that lets them stay in the room.
Reflection
01
Name the specific person in your life who is in year-five-or-later grief. Write their name down before you close this page.
02
Draft the exact text you'll send this week — without at leasts, bright sides, or moving on language. Read it back. If it tries to cheer them up, rewrite it as acknowledgment.
03
Set a calendar reminder for the next anniversary, deathday, or holiday they used to host. Add one sentence to the reminder: what you'll say or do that day.
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