How to Support Someone Through a Divorce or Separation
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- Who watches this
- You — the person showing up. These videos aren't for the recipient.
- When
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How to Support Someone Going Through Divorce
A divorce-recovery coach on showing up for a friend — starting with your own assumptions.
Drop the assumptions — you don't know who wanted out or why. Treat it like grief, follow their lead on the ex, and show up as the friend you actually are.
Name the person you're showing up for, then write down one assumption you're making about their divorce (who initiated it, whether they're relieved or devastated) — and decide to ask instead of assume.
Pick the kind of friend you actually are — the one who sits through the crying, the one who handles the apartment-and-attorney logistics, or the one who gets them out of the house — and offer that specific thing this week.
Draft one text that validates without dismissing: not "you're better off without them," but something like "this is genuinely hard and I'm not going anywhere." Send it.