Short videos for the person who wants to help but doesn't want to add to the pressure.
How this collection works
Who watches this
You — the person showing up. These videos aren't for the recipient.
When
Before a conversation, when you're not sure what to say. Watch alone, take a beat.
What each beat is for
Caption orients you before watching. Takeaway is the line to hold onto. Reflection questions turn watching into a small decision.
The collection · 3 videos
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How to help your partner cope with stress | Guy Bodenmann | TEDxZurich Women
TEDx Talks · 14 min
A clinical psychologist on how to support a stressed person without minimizing it — ask, don’t assume. (14 min)
Takeaway
Don’t guess how they feel and don’t shrink it with “it’s not that bad.” Ask one open question — “what’s the hardest part right now?” — and let the answer guide your help.
Reflection
01
Before you say anything today, draft one open question you’ll text or ask them — “what’s the hardest part of this week for you?” — instead of guessing how they feel.
02
Catch yourself before the next reassurance: write down one thing you tend to say (“it’s not that bad,” “you’ll be fine”) and a replacement that names what they’re carrying instead of shrinking it.
03
Name one concrete way you’ll take something off their plate this week — a meal, a chore, a quiet hour — and tell them it’s handled rather than asking if they want help.